At my Refill Your Cup Retreat this month, our morning workshop was devoted to the topic of resilience. My goal was to share specific ways to strengthen our “resilience muscles” and create personal resilience action plans. We talked about the 3Ps of Resilience: Personalization, Pervasiveness and Permanence as well as what some call the 4th P – Perspective. For those who couldn’t join us, I think Ashee’s tips for living a resilient life are great “quick hits” on the skills we learned. – Pamela
Hey everyone! I am so excited to be here with you today and talk about one of my favorite subjects in life. You know those days when life gives us all the wrong cards and we don’t know what to do? Well, I am going to give you a few pointers on what to do in those situations. Let’s talk about one of my good friends and motivators: resilience.
Resilience: The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
Just to be clear, I am not telling you to put your issues behind you the moment they happen and keep trucking. I am telling you that life happens and we must be ready to take it on, handle it and move onto the next thing.
Resilience is the often misunderstood as running away from a situation and “being strong”. This isn’t resilience, this is insanity. Resilience is the balance it takes to mourn when it is time to mourn (Ecclesiastes 3) and to put a smile on your face when the time comes. If we push ourselves beyond emotions, our worries don’t go away. Those worries end up under the rug and they will come back with a vengeance! Eventually, the mound grows and we will have to clean it out. Cleaning it out all at once will be much more difficult than situation by situation. Trust me. I am a, “it’s okay, let’s go” person, even when it’s not.
I created my top 5 recommendations for a resilient life and I hope you find these tips useful and encouraging.
5 Tips for A Resilient Life.
1. Stop. Breath. Give yourself a moment to think. If we never stop and give ourselves a moment, we will never fully address the problems at hand. These problems are the very thing that could be making us tired, holding onto fat or worse, making us chronically ill.
2. Recognize your stressors. Stress can be physical, mental and emotional. It can be “good” or “bad” but either way, left unchecked can lead to increased cortisol. High cortisol could be the answer to your fatigue, chronic illness and disease.
3. Mourn what’s bottled up. There is something in your life that holds you back. Maybe you had a horrible childhood experience. Maybe you were left alone when you needed someone. Maybe you think poorly of yourself. Whatever it may be, take it by the face and let it go. You are loved.
4. Adaptogens, can I say it again, adaptogens. Adaptogens are a non-toxic balancing superfoods. There are many different kind of adaptogens and while they are overall good for everyone, not each individual adaptogen works for each individual person. Work with a nutrition professional like myself or Pamela for guidance on which one may be best for you.
5. Change your outlook. The way we think about life can alter our mind so much that it can become a reality. The term “mind over matter” isn’t a joke, it’s a real thing that happens every day with people. Check your views and see what may be hindering your joy.
Putting it into action
1. When situations come your way, stop and think about them. When a loved one passes or you make a mistake, how do you handle it? Evaluate your responses.
2. In traffic are you a) fine b) anxious c) mad? The way a person reacts to traffic is a great indicator of how they respond to other stressful situations?
3. Take a day to let it out all. Channel your inner Frozen and cry it out.
4. Here is my outlook changer routine:
Wake up with plenty of time for yourself. I lay in bed for about 5-10 minutes and give thanks for all that I have. Then, I head to the kitchen and drink a big glass of filtered room temperature water. Next, I hit the yoga mat or the gym and sweat my guts out. Sweating is amazing for your health and working out gets those neurotransmitters going. Then, I read my bible and chill for a moment. After all of that, I start my work day and I have a more positive outlook throughout my day.
Now it’s your turn…what will you do to build a more resilient life?
What will you do today to change your reality. You have control and you can make the most of any situation. Life is going to deal you shizzz sometimes but you must roll with it.