Your self-care routine starts with self. It starts with getting clear about your identity, your values and your boundaries.
But defining self can be a long and sometimes uncomfortable process. You need help today.
You feel the pressure of first quarter filing deadlines at work, preteen struggles at home and a spouse who has no trouble putting their cycling group first. You’ll get to the exercises on identity later; today you need a way to preserve your sanity that doesn’t involve three glasses of wine and half a pizza.
There are no quick fixes for life’s most important problems but there are basic foundational habits that can help you form a basic yet effective self-care routine. These small steps done consistently will make a big difference.
I am quite surprised that “self-care” wasn’t on the “words to get rid of” list for 2019. Books, blogs and podcasts (including my own) talk about self-care with increasing frequency. It’s the buzzword du jou,r but what does it really mean?
Much of what you read about self-care is about short term and superficial solutions like getting a massage or treating yourself to your favorite tea. I am also guilty of this well-intentioned but short-sighted advice. A hot bath or a bouquet of flowers can be a soothing balm in a tough moment. But as soon as the water cools or the tea is gone, the comfort is often gone with it. It’s time to build a smarter self-care strategy with lasting results.
Forget ushering out the old year. It’s time to usher out an old DECADE. No pressure but have you made started on your new decade 2020 goals?
Audiobooks are exploding and nothing could make this reader happier! Not only does it make it easier to read more books, I can get a new book almost any time I need it. Whether I download it from one of the library’s apps for free (Libby or Hoopla) or splurge on Audible, a new book to pass the time while I cook or drive is always available. If you need an easy last minute gift or the perfect way to pass the time driving to grandma’s house, these Book of the Month club selections from 2019 are exactly what you need on audio.
Thanks to Starbucks and your favorite morning radio station, it feels like the Christmas holiday season started weeks ago. You know the marketing starts earlier and earlier every year, so you switched stations and decided to make your own tea at the office.
But Thanksgiving is this week! Looking at the calendar you realize that time has gotten away from you and it will be Christmas in just three weeks. Don’t worry if you don’t know what to get for the fitness lovers on your list. I’ve got you covered with eight gift ideas for fitness lovers.
I know it seems early but the holidays really are right around the corner. My friend, Brandy Hickman of Living Light with Brandy Lane, has some useful tips to help you find joy this season with a more simplistic healthy holiday. – Pamela
Is your calendar full and your to-do list too long? Are you trying to survive but feel like you are just keeping your head above water? Is calmness at your house during the holidays realistic? Or is it filled with chaos and busyness? All the activities and gatherings around the holidays can be fun but they can also bring quite a bit of stress, overindulgence, and fatigue. Taking time to nourish and care for yourself becomes increasingly important. Read these Guiding Principles to reduce stress and be calmer, healthier, and more joyful during this time of year.
I believe that positive action yields positive results. Even small steps make a difference in our pursuit of bigger goals. I also know that one of the most important positive actions is believing that you can succeed. Life coach and my friend, Denise Bischof, is here today to help you learn how to expand on and celebrate your successes.
Think of how people successfully teach children to walk. We cheer, give hugs and kisses, and do whatever we can to inspire them to enjoy learning this new skill.
And, when they fall down – which expect them to do – we encourage them to get back up and try again. There is no shame, no reprimands — only pure love and encouragement.
So, why is this so different for adults in our culture?
Have you ever struggled to engage your abs during exercise? This guest post from my friend, Maria Savvenas, will explain it all. – Pamela
You’re in an exercise class doing crunches. You hear the instructor say, “engage your core.” You think for a second and guess to brace or harden your abs. You go on with the exercises applying the directive to the best of your ability.
Two days later, you’re in a yoga class. You hear the instructor say, “draw your naval to spine.” You suck your belly in, hollowing out the area to remove as much structure as you can between your belly button and back.
Between the two scenarios, you go between completely hardening your abs to completely sucking in your abs. Your back hurts. And you’re not sure how to breathe. You don’t feel your abs getting stronger. It seems like everything is getting stronger but your core. So, what is really going on here?
Several years ago, while we were warming up, a client asked me “are you always this happy?” I replied, “yes, because this is the easiest part of my day”. Being in the gym with clients is why I became a personal trainer. Of course, it’s the best part of the day! The hard parts are the bits you don’t get to see. Things like puzzling over QuickBooks or hours in front my computer scheduling social media posts are not why I became a personal trainer. But since I work for myself, they come with the package. Being in the gym is where I get to be the teacher I always thought I would be.
Now, as I look back on ten years of Thrive Personal Fitness, I know a lot more about how to coach, run a business and live mindfully than I did in 2009. I think the lessons I’ve learned can be helpful to you on your fitness journey or if you’re thinking about changing career paths like I did.
Technology has made choosing the right personal trainer harder, not easier. Trying to decide between all the options for getting your workouts can leave you overwhelmed and unsure. How do you decide which personal training option – working in person or online – is right for you? Where do you start to find the right match for you and your goals?